Every Woman Needs a Mentor

Every spiritually single woman needs a mentor. I have heard the word “femtor” used, which I happen to like better because I think it is more descriptive of women helping women which is critical for our purity. Paul tells us:

Likewise, teach the older women to be reverent in the way they live, not to be slanderers or addicted to much wine, but to teach what is good. Then they can train the younger women to love their husbands and children, to be self-controlled and pure, to be busy at home, to be kind, and to be subject to their husbands, so that no one will malign the word of God. Titus 2:3-5

Mentor/femtor relationships do not have to be formal assignments. You may make an informal phone call to one friend regarding an issue about your children. You may check in with another when it comes to an issue about obedience or finances because that person has a successful track record. If you don’t experience a long term connection with someone right away, just continue to pray that God would lead you to your mentor/femtor until you find one or many. Perhaps you have been spiritually single for a long time and it’s time for you to share your wisdom with others. After a period of extravagant grace, we reach a dry place if we don’t give from our abundance. If you sense that this paragraph describes you, there are probably women who are struggling alone who need your help. Pray and ask God to guide you to them.

Do you have a very best friend who prayerfully supports you? Describe how you met and how long you have been connected.

Could you become a mentor/femtor? Under what conditions?

Write a want ad for the perfect best friend. Identify key characteristics of the mentor/femtor that would be best for you. Tuck these away in your Bible and see who God provides!

Reflection & Encouragement:

WANTED: Spiritually mature Christian female. Must be wise, discerning, kindhearted, and savvy. Needed for prayer, encouragement, and guidance. Must have waterproof shoulders to cry on, durable knees for long periods of prayer, and strong backbone to stand up to a friend when necessary.